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THIS Parent School
清華附中國(guó)際部家長(zhǎng)學(xué)校
Summary
講座概況
2019年11月1日，清華附中國(guó)際部第十四期家長(zhǎng)學(xué)校在培訓(xùn)樓如期開(kāi)講。本期家長(zhǎng)學(xué)校的主題是《做七十二變的成長(zhǎng)型家長(zhǎng)》，小學(xué)部心理老師陳開(kāi)航擔(dān)任主講人，向家長(zhǎng)介紹小學(xué)到高中三個(gè)階段孩子的發(fā)展過(guò)程，以及這期間家長(zhǎng)需要掌握的知識(shí)和采取的必要行動(dòng)。
On November 1, 2019, the fourteenth lecture of the THIS Parent School was held in the training building. Ms. Chen delivered the lecture on the topic of becoming a growth mindset parent and helped parents understand the whole development process of their children. She also discussed the knowledge and necessary actions that parents need to master during this process.
本次講座雖然圍繞家長(zhǎng)們最關(guān)切的主題，但內(nèi)容卻富有挑戰(zhàn)性。原因有兩點(diǎn)，首先孩子成長(zhǎng)各階段有不同的特點(diǎn)和挑戰(zhàn)，而家長(zhǎng)的需求也不盡相同。此外，本次家長(zhǎng)學(xué)校涉及兒童期和青春期的性教育，這個(gè)話題對(duì)于很多家長(zhǎng)來(lái)說(shuō)比較敏感且很難從自身成長(zhǎng)中汲取經(jīng)驗(yàn)。開(kāi)航老師在講座中不僅講解了理論知識(shí)，還手把手教給家長(zhǎng)具體的實(shí)操方法。更難能可貴的是，開(kāi)航老師為家長(zhǎng)們準(zhǔn)備了豐富的文字內(nèi)容，講座的幻燈片就是一部孩子性教育、親密關(guān)系和成長(zhǎng)教育的簡(jiǎn)明教科書(shū)，家長(zhǎng)回家就可以參考使用。
The content of the lectures and discussion was challenging for two reasons. First of all, there are different characteristics and challenges in different stages of a child’s development and parents aren’t always aware of the variations making behaviors difficult to understand. And this lecture involved sex education in childhood and adolescence, which is quite sensitive to many Chinese parents. In the lecture, Ms. Chen not only gave parents theoretical knowledge, but also some practical methods for understanding and dealing with these topics. What's more, Ms. Chen prepared rich text content for parents. The slide of the lecture is a concise textbook of children's sex education and intimate relationship education, which is convenient for parents to use at home.
Highlights
講座紀(jì)實(shí)
講座的第一部分，開(kāi)航老師首先向家長(zhǎng)介紹了發(fā)展心理學(xué)中最經(jīng)典的埃里克森的心理社會(huì)發(fā)展階段理論。由此引出了性教育的基本原則和開(kāi)展兒童性教育的重要性:
In the first part of the lecture, Ms. Chen introduced Eriksson's psychosocial development stage theory, which is the most classic one in developmental psychology. Parents were introduced to the basic principles of sex education with significant emphasis on the need to educate children about these principles:
性教育十分重要，它可以幫孩子減少很多麻煩。
Sex education is very important. It can help children avoid a lot of troubles.
性教育不僅僅是性生理教育，更是一個(gè)愛(ài)和親密關(guān)系的整全教育和人格教育。
Sex education is not only the education of sexual physiology, but also the education of love and intimacy.
每個(gè)家庭都可以根據(jù)孩子的情況、家庭的文化，決定開(kāi)展什么樣的性教育。
Each family can decide what kind of sex education to carry out according to their children's situation and family culture.
性教育包含非常重要的預(yù)防性侵犯的教育。
Sex education includes the education on preventing sexual assault.
針對(duì)一些普適性問(wèn)題，開(kāi)航老師給出了如下建議：
In response to the common concerns of parents, Ms. Chen gave the following suggestions:
家長(zhǎng)應(yīng)直面孩子提出的問(wèn)題，不扼殺他們的好奇心。
Parents should face up to their children's questions and encourage their curiosity.
家長(zhǎng)需要提前儲(chǔ)備好知識(shí)，以便當(dāng)場(chǎng)回答孩子們的提問(wèn)。不清楚如何回答時(shí)可以邀請(qǐng)孩子一起探索答案。
It is better for parents to accumulate knowledge in advance to answer the children's questions on the spot. When you don't know how to answer, invite your child to explore the answer together.
用孩子年齡可以理解的語(yǔ)言來(lái)解釋。
Use the language that can be easily understood by your children.
不要把責(zé)任推給對(duì)方。問(wèn)爸爸的問(wèn)題，爸爸答，問(wèn)媽媽的問(wèn)題，媽媽答。
Be responsive. If father is asked, father should answer. If mother is asked, mother should answer.
性教育沒(méi)有家長(zhǎng)想像的那么難以啟齒，孩子也不會(huì)學(xué)壞。聯(lián)合國(guó)教科文組織的研究數(shù)據(jù)表明，接受過(guò)性教育的孩子，首次性行為的平均年齡會(huì)推遲。
Sex education is not as difficult as parents think, and children will not follow bad examples. According to UNESCO research data, the average age of first sexual activity for children who have received sex education will be significantly delayed compared to their counterparts who have not.
Q&A
家長(zhǎng)提問(wèn)摘要
講座結(jié)束后，家長(zhǎng)們踴躍提問(wèn)，分享自己在進(jìn)行親密關(guān)系教育中遇到的困惑以及收獲的經(jīng)驗(yàn)。開(kāi)航老師提出自己的見(jiàn)解，與家長(zhǎng)一同探討適合的解決方案。
After the lecture, parents actively asked questions on intimate relationship education. Ms. Chen shared her opinions and discussed appropriate solutions with them.
Q：我家孩子發(fā)育比別人晚，會(huì)不會(huì)因?yàn)樾越逃崆鞍l(fā)育并開(kāi)始關(guān)注性？
My child develops later than his peers, will he develop ahead of time and start to pay attention to sex because of sex education?
A：不會(huì)。孩子會(huì)從比他發(fā)育早的同學(xué)那里聽(tīng)到各種信息。家長(zhǎng)給的信息會(huì)更準(zhǔn)確、對(duì)他更有好處。
No. Your child will be exposed to all kinds of information from those classmates who develop earlier than him. The information given by you is more accurate and beneficial to his development.
Q：用書(shū)來(lái)幫助孩子進(jìn)行性教育好不好？
How about using books to give children sex education?
A：很好！除了借助書(shū)，還可以使用這次家長(zhǎng)學(xué)校的PPT作為輔助工具。家長(zhǎng)和孩子談及性教育的時(shí)候可以把視線停留在書(shū)上，避免直視孩子產(chǎn)生的尷尬。
Good Idea! In addition to the help of books, parents can also use the PPT of today's Parent School as an auxiliary tool. When parents provide sex education, they can focus on books to avoid the embarrassment of eye contact with their children.
Parent Feedbacks
家長(zhǎng)反饋
講座結(jié)束后家長(zhǎng)們意猶未盡，留在教室和開(kāi)航老師繼續(xù)探討。家長(zhǎng)們的書(shū)面反饋也極其的熱烈和認(rèn)真（下一期THIS家長(zhǎng)學(xué)校的主題就會(huì)從其中產(chǎn)生哦）
Parents' written feedback was honest and sincere (Note: the topic of our next lecture will be selected from this feedback)
此次講座我學(xué)到了性教育的知識(shí)，還有孩子的不同發(fā)展階段。謝謝老師勇敢坦誠(chéng)地分享自己的成長(zhǎng)經(jīng)驗(yàn)。
I learned the knowledge of sex education and the different stages of children's development in this lecture. Ms. Chen, thank you for sharing your own personal experience bravely and honestly with us.
我學(xué)到了性教育的溝通方法！
I have learned the communication method of sex education!
我學(xué)到了父母在日常生活中如何正確地、不逃避地和孩子談?wù)撔缘膯?wèn)題。我學(xué)到了如何告訴孩子什么是愛(ài)、什么是愛(ài)情、什么是好的愛(ài)，以及愛(ài)有哪些不同的方式和態(tài)度.
I learned how parents can talk about sex with their children correctly and openly in daily life. I learned how to tell children what is love between friends, what is love between spouses/lovers, what is good love, and what are the different ways to express love.
12月6日，本學(xué)期最后一期家長(zhǎng)學(xué)校
我們，不見(jiàn)不散！
See you on the first Friday of December!
作者Writing|Hua Tang (THIS Parent)
圖片Pictures| Hanyin Song
編輯Editing| Hanyin Song
審核Auditing| Jeff Joyce, Toni Dong, Lan Yi,Wenping Li
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